yuuago: (Movies - TGWTDT - Scrolling)
I watched My Big Fat Greek Wedding 3 recently. It wasn't awful, but it wasn't great either; it was kind of meh. I don't have much to say about the film itself, even.

Like a lot of sequels, it suffers from being compared to the original, which was very fun if a little dated now. I have seen some speculation that the third movie also suffers from being directed by its main actor, Nia Vardalos - but she didn't direct the second film, which I thought was very disappointing (rather than just kind of meh) so I don't think that's the issue. It could be that the first one was just a very fun film and that it's hard to replicate its energy.

The one thing that I did like about MBFGW3 was a new character, Victory, played by Melina Kotselou. It was another of those situations where after the movie I immediately went to check what other works the actor has been in. Unfortunately, like I ran into with Conclave and Carlos Diehz, aside from MBFGW3 Melina Kotselou has only been in a couple of short films. But apparently they're in something that will be coming out this year (?) so I will have to make a note to find more information about that later. They seem to be more of a theatre actor rather than screen.

Victory is a great character. Very funny, very delightful. I love how optimistic they are and how much love they have for where they live, all the ambitions they have to make the village flourish even if on the face of it the situation is impossible. Stole my attention every time they appeared on the screen, honestly, including from the moment they showed up to pick up the family at the airport and it becomes very clear that the new Greek cousin is just as weird as the American visitors. I didn't expect to stumble across a nonbinary character in this film, let alone one done so well, and it was a really nice surprise.

I wonder if that was planned - like, if Victory was meant to be NB from the start, or if it was a situation were it was like, "Okay, we found this great actor, and they're NB, so we might as well make the character nonbinary too". I wonder if Kotselou had some input into how their scenes should go. I especially liked the dance scene where all the men are on one side, and the women are on another, and Victory starts off on one side, and then switches to another - it's so low-key and very nicely done.

Anyway... The movie wasn't awful, and it's possible I might even rewatch it some time. But that's just the one film. Hopefully Melina Kotselou will be in more movies in the future.
yuuago: (Birds - Rainbow)
CBC article in memory of John Banks, Canadian gay rights pioneer

Banks organized Montreal's first pride parade in 1979, among other things. He passed away on Monday.

Brief excerpt:
When Banks read a local newspaper article about Pride events that were held in different cities, he thought to himself: "Why don't we do it?"

"I was born in the 1940s, and it was illegal until 1969 to be gay," he recalled. "So I just thought, 'Yeah, let's have fun. Let's just do this and have fun doing it."
yuuago: (Birds - Rainbow)
Went to some Pride things over the last few days.

Friday night was the Two-Spirit Showcase, a drag performance consisting entirely of two-spirit artists. This was my first time going to any kind of drag show; originally I hadn't been planning to go, 'cause I was pretty tired, but like - hey, it was free, and I was acquainted with one of the performers, and Bea was going. Plus, bannock as refreshments during intermission (yum). So why not.

It was really cool! It wasn't only local performers - some came in for out of province especially for this, which I thought was pretty neat. In between the performances were discussions and presentations about what 2s means to these artists, how they incorporate the identity into their drag performances, and so on.

One point that was brought up is that the transphobic policies that the UCP wants to implement in Alberta are, in addition to being against science, medical standards, etc, are also in violation of the treaties. They specifically mentioned Treaty 8 since that's the area where we're located, but I'm assuming it goes for all of them. Anyway, it was something I hadn't considered before, will have to look up more about that later.

My favourite performer of the evening was Dad Bod Rod, who has very charming energy. And I haven't looked it up or anything, but I wouldn't be surprised if he has some ballet training; the way he moves on stage and the style of his miming made his act read like a ballet performance (so, that grabbed me, as a ballet enthusiast). But all the acts were really cool; it was an amazing show, and I'm so glad such talented people were willing to come up here and put it on.

I'm really glad that I decided to go.

Then, on Saturday, was the main pride festival. I was kind of unsure how I'd go about this; fest started at 12, but I had judo at 1, and I wasn't sure how I would juggle that. BUT it turned out okay! I went to the fest for a little bit, then walked over to the dojo and had a great class. After that, I was able to go back to the festival for a bit. (Really glad the dojo has showers - I was so gross after that.)

I met up with Rachel and Bea while at the festival, so that was nice. Picked up a pair of tacky free rainbow sunglasses and some stickers. Grabbed lunch. Soaked up ~vibes~.

When I came back after class, it was in time for the afternoon drag show. Some of these were the same performers that were at the 2s Showcase; others were part of the local Oil Royals drag group. Mad props to all the performers, 'cause it was really hot and I can't imagine being able to do all that in all those costumes and makeup and whatnot.

My favourite performance was by Billie Gold, one of our locals. He did an EXCELLENT number to C Lo Green's "Forget You"; excellent choreo and lots and lots of energy. Really loved it.

(And then after the show I had to skedaddle, because I was exhausted.)

I'm really glad I was able to go. <3 It was a fun time.
yuuago: (Birds - Rainbow)
Greece legalized same-sex marriage and adoption for same-sex couples today. [BBC short article]

It's nice to have some good news! One of my tumblr mutuals is from there, and she's so happy about this. I'm really glad for her!
yuuago: (Birds - Rainbow)
TransAction Alberta -> A petition regarding the Alberta UCP's upcoming anti-trans legislation that I discussed last week. The petition was put up by Skipping Stone (a trans-focused group out of Calgary) and various other organizations (EGALE, Queer Citizens United, etc).

When signed, the petition generates an email to the Alberta premier, the cabinet ministers responsible for the legislation, and to the member of the legislature representing your postal code. It accepts signatures from out-of-province postal codes, but I would say this is a very Alberta-focused issue (Danielle Smith is unlikely to care about what people in Ontario think about it). Probably the best thing that people outside the province can do re: this petition is pass it on to any Albertans they know.

It gives an option to customize the letter or write your own rather than just using the automatic one. And I appreciate that it sends letters out to MLAs etc rather than just gathering signatures - I think people are more likely to use this than writing to their relevant representative (that can be really hard). Even if we're just flooding the inboxes of various MLAs, at least they will receive some indication that people in Alberta care about this and oppose legislation that would have a severe negative effect on trans kids.

I'm pretty sure nobody on my FList is from Alberta, but if any of you know someone in the province who hasn't signed this yet, I'd appreciate if it's passed along.
yuuago: (YiH - Jaakko - What?)
The premier of Alberta has announced upcoming restrictive policies re: schools and health care for trans youth. [via CBC]


Excerpt from the CBC article listing the proposed measures
(Begin excerpt)

In a seven-minute video posted to social media Wednesday afternoon, Smith announced that her United Conservative Party government will implement a slate of new policies and guidelines relating to transgender young people and other children and youth.

Among the measures:

- Top and bottom surgeries will be banned for minors aged 17 and under. Doctors say bottom surgeries aren't performed on youth and top surgeries are rare.
- Puberty blockers and hormone therapies for gender affirmation will not be permitted for children aged 15 and under.
- Youths aged 16 and 17 will be permitted to start hormone therapies for gender affirmation "as long as they are deemed mature enough" and have parental, physician and psychologist approval.
- Parental notification and consent will be required for a school to alter the name or pronouns of any child under age 15. Students who are 16 or 17 won't need permission but schools will need to let their parents know first.
- Parents will have to "opt-in" their children every time a teacher plans to teach about gender identity, sexual orientation or sexuality. Alberta law currently requires parental notification and gives them the option to opt students out.
- All third-party teaching materials on gender identity, sexual orientation or sexuality will need to be approved in advance by the education ministry.
- Transgender women will be banned from competing in women's sports leagues.

Smith said the government will work with leagues to set up coed or gender-neutral divisions for sports.

(End excerpt)


Apparently Danielle Smith and the UCP think they know better than the Alberta Medical Association, which has released a statement about this.


Copy of statement from the AMA Section of Pediatrics
(Begin statement)

Statement from the AMA Section of Pediatrics on gender-affirming treatments
February 1, 2024

Medical practices are a safe place for children, youth and families to explore options around gender-affirming treatments. This is a medical decision and no one should be involved except the child, their parents if the child is not a mature minor, the physician (pediatrician or family/rural physician) and other health care team members. The doctor-patient relationship is inviolable and sacrosanct. Full stop.

We know that transgender youth have higher rates of mental health issues and suicidality because of the stigma attached to their status. The mental health of these children and youth will be markedly worse when denied care. These new medical restrictions single them out and reinforce stigma. This will add to the current and future burden of mental health issues on a system that is already inadequate to meet the needs of the population.

As for treatments, the effects of puberty-blocking agents are not irreversible; and once treatment stops, puberty goes forward. Treatment allows the patient time to determine their options without permanent effects. Puberty blocking actually has benefits for gender-divergent patients by preventing development of mature secondary sex characteristics so that, later in life, the most invasive gender-affirming surgery may not be necessary if the patient moves forward with gender-affirming care. Bottom surgery in Canada is already limited to patients over 18 years.

Requiring a private registry of physicians to provide gender-affirming care has the feel of surveillance, to which we object. It is an unnecessary bureaucratic process given the current existence of effective referral processes and networks.

Children and youth have the right to the appropriate medical care, at the appropriate time, and this should not be denied to them. We urge the Premier, in the strongest terms, to reconsider these proposed changes for care of transgender youth.

(End statement)


I'm very angry and very stressed out and I don't really think I can say anything coherent about all this. This shit is going to get kids killed.

Pride YMM has also released a statement about it. There's a meeting coming up soon, and I expect we'll be discussing the whole thing, figuring out some things to do.


Copy of Pride YMM's statement
(Begin statement)

Pride YMM Official Statement

Proposed UCP Policies Concerning Transgender and Gender-Diverse Youth in Alberta

(Wood Buffalo, AB) On Wednesday, January 31, 2024, Alberta Premiere Danielle Smith announced the new UCP policies banning medical treatments for transgender minors, restricting the ability of transgender female athletes to participate in women's sports, requiring parental consent to be taught curriculum about gender identity, human sexuality and sexual orientation in school, and states that if a student wants to change their name and pronouns in school, parental notification will be required.

These policies operate under the assumption that all children are safe and protected at home, which we know is not the case, especially not for many transgender and gender diverse youth.

Pride YMM opposes the UCP's harmful and transphobic policies, and urges the government to create policies in consultation with the expertise of the medical community, educators, and the transgender community. A collaborative, evidence-based approach is urgently required in order to protect trans and gender diverse youth, and protect their access to safe schools and life-affirming healthcare resources.

Pride YMM's priority is to protect and support transgender, non-binary, and gender nonconforming youth. We also work closely to support local schools and educators in their professional obligations to ensure safe and caring schools. These policies pose a direct threat to the safety and autonomy of transgender and gender diverse youth. In addition to politicizing the identities of some of our most vulnerable population, these policies also misrepresent the status of trans healthcare access in Alberta and undermine the need for thorough consultation with those most impacted. For example:

- Youth aged 16 and under could previously receive HRT with parental permission, meaning that this policy actually reduces parents’ ability to choose;
- No teachers or teachers’ unions were consulted in the creation of these policies, and the ATA does not support them;
- Surgeries on trans youth are non-existing in our province, indicating that the ban was created in order to police and politicize trans and gender diverse people, not protect them;
- No doctors were consulted in the creation of these policies, and they are not supported by health science.

Although queer youth are 14 times more at risk of suicide than heterosexual cisgender youth, studies show that queer youth with at least one accepting adult were 40% less likely to report a suicide attempt in the past year, and the risk of suicide decreases by 93% with strong family support. For many, teachers are a safe person they can confide in, and school/the GSA might be the only place they feel comfortable being themselves. Removing that safe space and adult from their lives has proven dire consequences:

Transgender and gender diverse individuals face stigmatization from family members and peers, placing this group at high risk of adverse outcomes including suicidality, substance abuse, and compromised mental health. In the 2021 Census, 100,815 people reported being transgender or non-binary in Canada, approximately 0.33% of the country’s population.

Queer youth report lower levels of parental closeness and elevated rates of parental abuse, and homelessness. Transgender youth also report elevated rates of child abuse compared to cisgender peers.

Queer youth are overrepresented in the homeless youth population in Canada; it has been estimated that 25-40% of homeless youth identify as queer, meanwhile only 5-10% of the general population does. This is a direct consequence of them being outed (either voluntarily or forcibly) to their family, as one of the main causes for young people leaving home or for being kicked out of the house is family conflict due to abuse, homophobia and transphobia. Queer youth are more likely to report family and intimate partner violence, poor mental health, and substance use than cis-hetero youth. Trans and gender non-conforming youth are more likely to be experiencing current, rather than past, family violence.

Over the previous 2 decades, stigma around identifying as a sexual minority has reduced; however, the risk of poor mental health and of suicidality remains high among sexual minority youth. Every year, an average of five hundred Canadian youth take their own life. Approximately half of queer youth have thought about suicide, and they are over four times more likely to attempt suicide than their non-queer peers.

Pride YMM encourages the 2SLGBTQIA+ community and allies to write or call their MLA to express their concern and outrage. Trans Rights YEG has created a Trans Rights Letter Campaign which is available online: https://bit.ly/transrights2024.

We offer our solidarity and full support to fellow 2SLGBTQIA+ advocacy groups such as Egale Canada and Skipping Stone Foundation, who have released a joint statement expressing that they will pursue legal action if Alberta moves ahead with implementation of these changes.

(End statement)


I'm just so tired.
yuuago: (Birds - Rainbow)
The Trans Day of Remembrance was tonight. Pride YMM arranged a vigil at a park downtown.

It was a decent-sized group, somewhere between 25 and 30 people. Probably would have been more if it hadn't been bitterly cold. The organisers thought to bring electric candles, which is good, 'cause real ones wouldn't have stood up to the wind.

I've been to TDoR vigils before, but that was when I was away at university. It's surprising to have one in my hometown - surprising in a good way.

Anyway. Quiet moment, but good. Some people said a few words. Toward the end we cut it slightly shorter than planned due to the cold. Still, it was good.

I'm really glad so many people showed up.
yuuago: (Birds - Rainbow)
Went to the Pride YMM annual general meeting this evening.

This is my first year officially being a member. It was pretty much as I expected - formal things, budget stuff, plans for next year. Kind of reminded me of when I was in Acadia Pride; a lot of our meetings were like that.

Anyway, I'm glad I went, because while next year's plans weren't discussed in detail, it was cool to get a sneak peek of what's coming. The main things of interest to me are some plans for letter writing campaigns aaand the addition of additional meetups (they call them support groups, but it's more like a coffee social). Also, they received some grants, thus higher budget - it'll be interesting to see what they'll do with that.

I remember when this group started up, and it was so small. They've become so successful and (comparatively) big - it's really heartening. And great to hear, because like, things are still so challenging - so it's good that at least somebody is working on it.

Back when I was involved in Acadia Pride, I wasn't like... behind any of the organizing or anything. But I'd show up, and participate when possible. And that's not a small thing. So, I anticipate it'll be the same here. Possibly I'll do some volunteering - if I can find the time, if I can fit it into my schedule - but that sounds very ambitious at the moment. ...Getting on the board or anything is right out, definitely more than I can commit. But there's always something small that can be done. (And showing up. Very important.)

:|

Sep. 19th, 2023 01:36 pm
yuuago: (Birds - Rainbow)
Pride YMM sent out a notice about a far-right anti-gay/trans protest tomorrow. Nationwide, apparently, with one happening in our city. I'm not surprised, just sad and frustrated.

I was at a Pride YMM meetup a few weeks ago, and the subject came up. No counterprotest planned at that time, and there's nothing planned now. This does not surprise me, considering the safety issue.

When it was first mentioned, I didn't realize that it would be... in the morning on a Wednesday? So, all things considered, I expect it'll be very small. My city has a lot of 'phobic shitheads, but like... people gotta' work. With luck, it'll amount to a whole lot of nothing.
yuuago: (Netherlands - Rest)
Went to the monthly Pride YMM meetup.

I was very tired from the weekend (still), so not very talkative. But it was still nice to be able to go and see people. Some familiar faces, some new faces. Nice.

I'm looking forward to the next one. Hopefully I'll have enough brainpower to talk more.
yuuago: (Birds - Rainbow)
Man, today was busy.

My judo club was having an outdoor pizza party at lunch, and then later on was the Pride festival. I hadn't realized that these things were on the same afternoon, and was kind of unsure how to go juggle the time for both.

I ended up going to the judo party dressed all in rainbows, and then leaving after a bit to head downtown for Pride. Not a lot of people from the adult class showed up; it was mostly kids + their parents, so I didn't feel bad about not sticking around for the whole thing. But I'm still glad I went; it was nice to get out - and I ain't gonna say no to a free lunch. ;V

The Pride festival was really impressive this year! It was down at the heritage shipyard, and Pride YMM did a really nice job of setting up and decorating the space. There were a ton of people there; it was really nice to see. I'd hoped to run into those two people that I met at the kickboxing class, but didn't see them - possibly I just missed them. Anyhow, I hung out for a bit, watched Pride YMM give out some awards, listened to some music, picked up this year's tshirt, aaaand then left once I'd had enough. ;V It was very hot and I was Very Tired.

It's come so far from the first Pride here! Really heartening to see. I'm so glad that it's been successful.

I think next year I'll try to get involved - I mean, I say that every year, but maybe... I mean, I'm officially a member now, and I get their newsletter, so at the very least, when things start to get organized for this, I'll (theoretically) be aware of what kind of volunteer help they need and whether I'll be able to fit that into my schedule.
yuuago: (EstFin - You're My Best Friend)
Happy news: Estonia has voted in favour of marriage equality! Details: EN|EE

The act will come into effect January 01, 2024.

It felt so nice to come across this today. :D I think I read something about it a few months ago - it's been in the works for a while, IIRC. Anyway, congrats to Estonia! Happy Pride Month! Yay!
yuuago: (Birds - Rainbow)
This afternoon, I went to the Pride flag raising at the new community park. It was very damp and mauzy out today, but still nice.

The crowd was smallish, as expected at the more "formal" events. Still a good handful of people though. There were some familiar faces, and I even talked to one person I recognized (though I didn't catch his name, argh - next time.)

After that, there was a coffee social at another location. Turns out there's an independently-owned plant nursery in town, with a fancy coffee shop inside it. ?!! It's a gorgeous store, and I had no idea it existed. (And now I will have to pretend it doesn't exist so that I won't be tempted to go there and spend tons of money on coffee and houseplants...)

Anyway - I hadn't been sure about it, but I did go, just for a little while. I did want to see the store, after all. And... make an attempt at socializing.

I spoke to a few people involved with Pride YMM! I even got their names! We had a nice little conversation! And I ended up joining the org, so... I guess I'm a member of this now. It doesn't mean I'll be actively involved (though I hope that I will end up doing that, going to a few meetings and so on) but it does mean that I'll get their newsletter and be aware of the goings-on, at the very least.

I didn't stay long - it's been a really exhausting weekend and I was so very, very tired; as soon as I got home I just kind of flopped down and napped... but I'm so glad that I went. It felt so nice to just talk to some goddamn gay people, man. My RL social circle (such as it is) has been far too straight/cis for far too long. And hopefully I will end up getting more involved - it's been ages since I've done any kind of, you know, rainbow community related formal stuff (organizing/fundraising/activism/volunteering/whatever) and I miss that. ...And I'm so sick of feeling alone. It'll be nice to have one damn space where I don't have to hide myself.

Anyway. Glad I went to this! Looking forward to the other stuff that I've decided to go to. Hooray.
yuuago: (Birds - Rainbow)
Whoo! More lovely Pride Month art from PannaN: Girls kissing in Łowicz folk clothing.

And she also posted a M/M Silesian grooms art to go with the F/F Silesian brides she drew earlier this month.

Man, she keeps posting such lovely things. I feel so spoiled. I think the Łowicz one is my favourite of the bunch she's done recently - it's so bright and adorable.
yuuago: (Birds - Rainbow)
Another!

M/M + F/F couples in Slovakian traditional clothing by wormbus-art

Stuff like this just makes me so happy.

This artist also has a neat pair of illustrations with Slovakian traditional clothing + trans flag colours: Slovakian trans guy and Slovakian trans girl

Since folk costumes like these typically have colourful details to begin with, they adapt really well to flag colours, and I love love love seeing people playing around with that idea.
yuuago: (Birds - Rainbow)
Happy pride month!

Art rec: PannaN-art's series of LGBTQ couples in Silesian traditional clothing

Probably rec'd that one before, but I just had to again. It's so cute. And they added a new one today!
yuuago: (Art - Lady with the veil)
[personal profile] sophia_sol posted a rec list of LGBTQ short stories: here.

Worth a look if that's what you're into! I haven't read any of them yet, but I'm looking forward to finding time for that, 'cause these sound great.
yuuago: (YiH - Jaakko - Thinking)
Man, I don't know what's up lately, but I keep running across transphobic bullshit, both in multifandom and nonfandom spaces. Bloody hell. Get outta' here with that!

(Not my DW flist, to be clear - you're all lovely. Of course, if someone I was subscribed to did post that, then said person wouldn't still be on my flist...)

Anyway, it really pisses me off, getting that shit in front of my eyeballs during what's supposed to be my leisure time. It makes me want to, you know, clip back my engagement with literally everything even more. But that also pisses me off, because like, I shouldn't have to do that.

Honestly, I don't know if it's actually a higher volume than the usual, or if I'm just seeing more of it because I've been reading more things that relate to LGBT stuff in this month than I typically would. Either way, it sucks, this sucks, everything sucks.
yuuago: (Iceland - Curious)
I burst into tears and cried for a couple of hours yesterday. It was really weird.

Like, okay - it was sparked by reading about something serious and awful (Hungary passing that anti-LGBT "propaganda" law) but normally with something like that, I would just feel kind of sad and useless, not... whatever the hell that was.

I think that it's just that I'm stressed out and overworked and it's coming out in some weird ways. But that sure was something.

I've also been feeling kind of bad this month so far, because pride month comes with so much in-community bickering on the one hand, and on the other hand so many people have it really really hard (Not just the thing with Hungary. I'm thinking mostly of my friend in Poland, and how it really isn't easy to be not cis/straight there, to put it mildly.) It all feels like one big tense mess.

I just. [/DEEP, LONG SIGH]

I guess I need to go lie down.
yuuago: (Norway - Coffee)
I recently had a conversation with a Norwegian acquaintance about nonbinary pronouns in Norwegian language. Thought I'd drop some notes here so I won't forget the details.

The person I spoke with said that there isn't really a consensus on an equivalent to singular "they", but there are a few options:

De/dem - Same as plural de/dem, so literally the same as singular they/them in English.

Hen/hens - Borrowed from proposed nonbinary pronoun hen in Swedish. Those who've looked for information on gender-neutral pronouns in Scandinavian languages might recognize this one.

Hin - Much less frequently used than hen. One of the issues with hin is that it's a word that already exists in Norwegian - its use in nynorsk roughly translates to something like "the other one" - so that might be why it's used rarely.

So... Now I know the options, if I ever want to write something in Norwegian about a nonbinary person! I suppose. Though of course if I were referring to someone who has a preference for one or the other, obviously I'd go with whatever that is.

--Of course, I only spoke about it with one person, and Norwegian language being as it is, someone in a different part of the country might have given me a somewhat different answer. With that in mind, if anyone who knows anything about this subject sees this and has input, I'd be interested in hearing it.
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