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Looks like I need to read the local paper more often: First Fort McMurray pride event to be held in August
(And there's also a more recent article from CBC)

I was going to say "I'm surprised we even have any kind of Pride organization". Had never even heard of it until I saw the municipal twitter refer to it today. But it turns out they're brand new as of this year, so... that would explain things.

Must admit, I did raise an eyebrow a little bit at this:

Rensmaag [A member of the committee], who identifies as a member of the LGBTQ community, said she is not sure why there have not been more Pride events held in Fort McMurray in the past.

The most recently held event, called "Pride at the Pub," was celebrated in 2013 at Bailey's Pub. The gathering was marred when several individuals stole a Pride flag hung to celebrate the event and burned it in the parking lot.

Ah, yes... I wonder why there have not been more Pride events. Such a mystery. Especially since there were so many people who wondered what all the fuss was about, and talked about that flag-burning as if the people who did it had done nothing wrong. (The stuff I heard at work the day after this happened... Well. You know.)

Anyway. This thing is happening on August 26th. That's a Saturday. That means I can definitely go, as long as it's during the day. So, I will. This isn't a "maybe".

The idea kind of terrifies me, I will admit. My biggest worry is what if somebody from work sees me, because I'm not out at work, and if somebody found out, it could (and likely would) cause problems. But the people I work with are not the sort who would go within a kilometre of this event, so it should be okay. Plus, the square it will be held in is very close to one of my favourite cafes, as well as the main transit terminal, and I know the area very well, so... plenty of escape routes if things get weird, or if I get nervous, and admittedly getting nervous without reason is about 9000% more likely to happen than anything else.

It's embarrassing to admit that I am afraid; it's embarrassing to be afraid. When I was in university, I was never afraid. I was in my school's pride organization; it was the first club I joined, and I went to every meeting. When my SO visited from Halifax, or when I went there, we held hands whenever we were out, and didn't give a damn who saw us. Whenever people asked about my engagement ring, I gave the plain facts about it. I don't remember ever feeling like I had to hide.

But Wolfville and Halifax are not Fort McMurray, and Nova Scotia is not Alberta. And I'm at a very different life stage now than I was at that time. So... I guess it's not entirely unreasonable to feel this way, but I'm still going to be disgruntled that I do feel it.

Oh, well.

I wonder if Pride YMM will get permission to have the crosswalks painted like rainbows. That would be cute.

Date: 2017-06-28 03:03 am (UTC)
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I hope it goes well!

Date: 2017-06-28 09:13 am (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] st_aurafina
Oh, man, that's scary as hell. Go you, be brave and stay safe.

Date: 2017-06-28 02:14 pm (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
In the "worst" case, couldn't you just tell people you know from work "I'm here because I support LGBTQ community" ? :) *Could completely go on an event for that kind of reason someday, considering how many LGBTQ friends she has... if people "from outside" - Sorry I don't find a good sentence é_è - are welcome, of course*
All will be fine, Yuu, I'm sure. Just be yourself and enjoy :)


Date: 2017-06-29 07:48 am (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
Mélusine, I'm LGBTQ myself and I second that "outsiders" (they are usually called "allies") are very welcome at Pride! Some queer people can't stand up for their own rights because being out is too risky for them personally. People like you, who aren't queer but support us, are extremely important in such cases. I'm very grateful to every straight person who ever supported Pride. And every non-straight one, for that matter. It's a good and important cause, all help is appreciated.


Date: 2017-06-28 08:11 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] laufeyknits
Good luck and good times, hope you'll have fun! One thing that tends to save the day in case of almost being outed is to just deny everything. Someone sees you at the pride and comes to talk to you? Stare at them like you don't know them. Someone asks you at work if you were there because they thought they saw you? No, not me. People will do amazing brain acrobatics to convince themselves they just saw someone else that looked a lot like you.

Date: 2017-06-29 07:42 am (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
Hello, I'm in the exact same situation! Our town is having its first Pride this weekend and I'm really torn about going or not. Scheduled in the same day (after they found out about Pride) are a neonazi march and a prayer for "those fallen in the sin of homosexuality" in the biggest church in town. The amount of hate and misinformation spewing in fb comments on the articles about it is concerning, but I doubt anyone will really do something violent. I think.

For me the most awkward thing is I have a ton of queer friends but I'm not even out to most of them. While I can lie to an outsider that I'm just an ally, it's a bit weird to have to do that within the community. Sucks being a coward, eh.

As for being seen and recognized: I don't know how it is in other places, but here people and media take and post a ton of photos of public events. I've seen myself (not recognizable face, but recognizable clothing items) in photos of a protest of thousands of people earlier this year. There are going to maybe be several hundred at Pride - so if I go, I assume there will be hard evidence of it. You should probably assume the same.

On the other hand, they say the best cure for anxiety is to face the thing that scares you, so maybe we would both benefit from going even with the possible downsides. If I can suggest anything, just don't go alone. Do you have a friend who can come with you, just in case things get messy?


Date: 2017-06-29 12:23 pm (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
Ooh, good idea with the wig! If you do something really different with your make-up as well, you should be safe from being recognized. Unfortunately I don't own as many accessories or skills with altering my appearance... except my beloved anonymous mask, which has started to get weird connotations lately, so I don't feel like using it anymore (it could be downright alarming at Pride depending on how people read it). Well, I still have a couple of days to think about this. Thank you for the support <3


Date: 2017-06-29 11:17 pm (UTC)
From: (Anonymous)
Ooh, it sounds like it would make you happy even regardless of Pride :) Do it, I support this!!


Date: 2017-06-29 09:22 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] dhampyresa
the square it will be held in is very close to one of my favourite cafes
There's your excuse. "I was just at my favourite café and then suddenly Pride??? Idk, there was music and rainbows HOW WAS YOUR WEEKEND?"

Or you could go full glam!

Date: 2017-07-02 08:42 pm (UTC)
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From: [personal profile] dhampyresa
I really want pictures of goth!peacock!yuu now :P

I hope you had a good time.
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